My name is Sarah and I live in Indiana.

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  1. Mitch says:

    Hey Sarah

    I like your blogs its good your questioning religion and doing the right thing for your self, any way hang in there and look after your self


  2. Jenny says:

    Love your blog. I may not comment on every post, but I am reading all of them.

  3. Alicia says:

    I just found your blog, and I am thoroughly enjoying it. Thank you for your thoughts and sentiments. It’s so nice to know that I’m not alone.

  4. Just want you to know I’ll be praying for you. I know it’s hard to deal with all this.

  5. Greg says:

    Hi Sarah,

    I love your blog. One thing caught my eye. Your husband is a “Staunch believing, porn addict that won’t listen to reason.” As a ex-porn addict ex-mormon myself, I have a few recommendations.

    1. Please delete that off your blog, and then this comment after you read it. (I couldn’t find a way to email you privately.) The reason being is because it is humiliating, and does nothing but shame. One might think that can help, but it really doesn’t which will show in recommendation #2.

    2. Funny thing about leaving Mormonism. I let go of the guilt of being human. You see, we males in the church had it really rough. Any thought of sex was a sin, and the harder we try, the more we fail. The more we fail the harder we try. What happens is it turns TBM men into creeps. We can’t talk to women, because if we do, we have “Bad Thoughts”. And this is while going through puberty when our hormones are going wild. So what happens is that we are socially stunted, and we don’t learn how to talk to cute girls. Which turns us into creeps. And OH THE GUILT!! The SHAME!!!

    So when I left, I studied, and found out that having sexual urges is completely and totally natural. There’s nothing wrong with it. Sex is the one thing on the planet that everyone has in common, so religion in general uses sex, and demonizes it to keep people in line. If they said drinking water was a sin, the most faithful would die of thirst. So they demonize sex. The Mormon Church is especially good at demonizing sex. Without the guilt, suddenly porn wasn’t necessary. That’s why I’m an ex-porn addict. Life is definitely much better, and I can talk to beautiful women without it being a sexual thing. I can be genuinely interested in her likes, and dislikes instead of her body.

    The loss of guilt is not an instantaneous thing either. Just love him. Love him for who he is, and try to come to terms with the idea that his sexuality is nothing to be afraid of. There is nothing wrong with him. Let him come to believe it too. Many couples, including an ex-bishop have said their marriages are much better after coming to terms with that. The ex-bishop didn’t wack the pud for years until his wife told him it was OK. Then when she wasn’t interested, he could just go it alone. She wasn’t pestered for sex, and he was never sexually unsatisfied. According to him, it strengthened their marriage.

    I know it’s a different, and almost unheard of way of looking at it, but it’s true. Sexual feelings are not evil. They are natural.

    Please feel free to forward this letter on if you like. If not, That’s cool too. I’d be more than happy to discuss it as well in more detail.


  6. Kim says:

    Hi, Sarah. It seems to me that you have found what is NOT true, but have you ever considered that the Bible that the Book of Mormon copies may be true? My husband and I have a heart to show Mormons the inaccuracies of Mormonism and to show them that the Jesus of the Bible is the real deal. I know Jesus has changed my heart so that love is what drives me in all that I do. Before that, I was selfish and lived just for me. The Jesus of Mormonism doesn’t change the heart. LDS just produces religion whereas true Jesus of Christianity gives opportunity for a day-in day-out intimate relationship with God. Wherever there is a fraud, there is sure to be the real deal nearby. I’d love to chat with you about this if you are interested.

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